I have been deliberating about whether or to blog about this, but I have decided that as my blog is a record of what happens in my life, and that of my children, then I should.
We enjoyed a lovely time at Puxton Park today, which is near Weston Super Mare where Burton, Jenson and I met up with Me and The Boy from TheBoyAndMe. None of us had visited this farm park before but it was wonderful! It had a huge indoor soft play area and then outside there was so much for children big and small to enjoy! A petting village, crazy farm style golf, swings, a wooden climbing tower, go-karts, ride on tractors, JCB style machinery and sand pit and probably a whole lot more. Unfortunately, we didn’t get to see too much of the outside as it absolutely poured it down and we all got soaked!
Another reason Jenson and I didn’t see as much of the outside as Burton, The Boy and Me is because my little boy ended up with another pulled elbow! I am almost embarrassed to reveal this because for those of you who are familiar with me and my blog, you will recall that barely two weeks ago I had to take Jenson to A & E with exactly the same injury (although I didn’t know that was what it was when it happened! I did this time).
Another reason for feeling awkward about discussing todays ‘incident’ is because it was caused by Burton….again!
Now I have to mention here, that Burton does not spend his time beating his brother up. He loves him,and sometimes he does snatch things from him and fall onto him and is a bit rough albeit over zealous etc…. I mean he is a toddler and a boy and not even 3 yet. But for the most part it is harmless and just general playtime stuff.
Today, Burton tried to ‘help’ his brother get into the ball pool by pulling his arm! It was really quick and I saw him do it and told him to stop straight away. I picked Jenson up and he was upset but not massively, and when I touched his arm I did think it felt floppy (which made me feel sick and on the verge of tears again!), but I wasn’t 100% certain that it had been injured because the arm pulling had been so quick. So as it was lunchtime I thought I would let Jenson eat first and see if he used that arm (not the same one as last time either!) at all. He wasn’t crying so I figured that maybe he was ok after all.
However, half way though lunch I noticed that his arm in question was not being used and just lay by his side in the high chair, and when I moved it slightly to wipe his fingers he winced and cried. Thats when I knew he had another pulled elbow.
*Flashback to two weeks ago last Tuesday*
*Flashback to two weeks ago last Tuesday*
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| Jenson 2 weeks ago |
My first thought was wondering if social services would get involved because this was the second time it had occurred in as many weeks! I mean, maybe they would think it was me causing the harm and think it was child abuse. Or that I was a bad mother and was not fit enough to look after my children!Yes these thoughts entered my mind and I said them out loud too!!
Anyway, fortunately, my Mum and Step Dad live near Taunton and were both at home today so they came over and took Jenson off to the Taunton A & E and Burton and I followed. This was so that Jenson could sit on Mums lap and not have to sit in the car seat.
His elbow was soon corrected and the nurse assured me that social services would not be involved and that this was a very common injury and one that can very easily happen. Burton knew he had caused his brother another visit to ‘osbitable’ but he honestly thought he was helping Jenson get in to the ball pool. He had been such a good boy today so it wasn’t done out of a strop or nastiness.
BUT I really don’t want to end up at A & E again …….. at least not this year please! I just felt like such a terrible mummy, I still do. I do watch my children, it’s not that I leave them on their own. It only takes a second – a second! – and a trip to hospital can be on the cards. I know accidents happen, and an accident is what happened today, but it doesn’t stop me from feeling a bit of a failure.
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When my daughter was nine months and learning to walk, she fell into a wall unit, even though we right there and she cracked open her head requiring a hospital visit for stitches. At the hospital, in no time at all, we had a Child Life Worker questioning us, and not believing us. When the doctor went to put a needle into my daughters head, just above her eye, well she freaked. Dad was holding her flailing arms, but I couldn’t hold her head still because I was crying. The Child Life Worker held her head but did such a poor job the doctor yelled at her to do it properly or get out! Perfect! She didn’t ask us any more questions. Accidents happen in seconds with children, don’t beat yourself up about it.
Oh lovely, glad he’s ok and sorted now. Poor boy, he really was struggling wasn’t he? And poor Burton, who was only trying to help him in, I saw it as well. You are a good mum, they are both active boys and these things happen. Even if you had been questioned (and I’m glad you weren’t) as I said at the time, you’d rather them be over cautious than under cautious because with some families it is more than just an accident.
It was fab there, and we will definitely meet up again. But when it’s not raining, and wit healthy children!
(Oh and you got my blog name the wrong way around, now go to bed)
I cant believe i got your name wrong!! Doh!! I will if course change it!! Sorry ! Thank you for your comment x
pretty cool post, thanks
Jenny! You are NOT a bad mother and should not feel ashamed. These things happen. Babies are just so fragile. Charles has just started to pull Harry around but its because he doesn’t understand that Harry is so fragile and is still a baby.
I’ve lost count of the amount of times Charles has pushed Harry over, resulting in Harry smacking his head on our wooden floor. It really is a matter of time until we have to go to a&e I’m sure.
You can’t keep your eyes on them 24/7 and as you said, Burton didn’t mean to hurt him.
Hugs to you and your precious boys xxx
Aww poor wee Burton, he was just doing what he through best for his little brother. It is so hard, I know with two boys how rough they can be and sometimes these things happen. I can fully understand why you’d be in a panic about social services i’d have been the same. Glad it all turned out ok in the end. xx
oh poor Jenson and poor you. Honestly I have had many trips to A and E because Milo is totally accident prone. Really don’t worry these things happen, and children heal really quickly.
I commented but through the iPod, so I think you need to import the comment?
Oh sweetheart you are not a failure. These things do happen, and perhaps because it had already happened once that’s why it did it again so soon. I think we would all feel the same way though, I know I would. I sometimes look at JW’s legs covered in bruises and think I’ve no idea how he got all those, what if he had an accident and we had to go to hospital, would someone think I’ve hurt him? But the truth is that kids get bumps and bruises everyday because they have no fear of being hurt and they are exploring constantly. You couldn’t have stopped it from happening so please don’t feel bad. And a big kiss to your boys! xx
thank you so much for your kind words. xx
i did see your comment thank you lovely, and i replied to it on my mobile – did you not get my reply? grrr ruddy disqus maybe i should change!!
thanks Ella i just couldn’t believe that he has had the same injury on each arm now in 2 weeks!! seems wrong somehow! xx
thank you. i knew you would know whats its like with having two boys with similar age gap. xx
thanks for your comment Catherine . it is hard because you hear on the news how social services are so quick to place blame sometimes. i mean its good that checks are done but sometimes i think they target the wrong people!! your daughters injury sounds nasty though, bless her. xx
We all have moments like this. Henry’s legs were constantly bruised all the time when he was 3 & I worried about that. Obviously Burton can’t help being a bit rough at times being so young still. I bet hospitals see repeated examples all the time. Glad everything ok in the end. xxx
Ahhh I hope you are ok now, it must be really hard with two little ones and things happen in a split second! Glad Jenson is ok, I think some babies must just be susceptible to this kind of thing. Hopefully that’ll be your last trip xx