Well what a day yesterday was!
It was pretty full on and very trying and I almost cried twice. It’s those terrible two’s again – rearing their ugly head and changing my toddler into the child from hell. Don’t get me wrong, Burton has been ‘naughty’ , well mischievous more I guess, before and wound me up but yesterday ……….well yesterday was just non stop!!
It started with him being up very early – we were downstairs playing with the playdoh and painting by 6.20am!! Before Daddy got up he had been told off about ‘scatting’ (a word I use, one which I possibly have made up, to describe him just kicking or throwing or pushing his toys or whatever across the floor or work surface!) his crayons across the table and onto the floor, after a had asked him three times not to.
Up until recently if Burton has done something he shouldn’t I ask him not to, and he gets 3 chances at the last saloon. If, however, he does it a 4th time then he had to go to bed until he calmed down if he was in a tantrum, or for a couple of minutes if it he was being told off. Then I would explain why he was sent there and then we would kiss and hug and he could return back downstairs. However, I decided a few weeks ago that I wouldn’t use his bedroom as punishment because I don’t want him associating going to bed / his room as a place to resent. This was starting to happen with nap times because he would think he was going to bed for being told off.
Anyway, waffle waffle, as much as I hate the term ‘naughty step’ , I am now giving him his 3 warnings and if he breaks that then I sit him on the bottom stair for a minute or so, and then we go through the explanation and making up stage as normal. Well I have noticed that since introducing the stair method, Burton almost wants me to send him there because when he starts to misbehave and I ask/tell him not to and it is getting to the third and final chance and I add if you do it again, you will have to go and sit on the stairs, he purposely offends again! He cries when he sits on the stair but he seems to want me to send him there which is odd.
Yesterday, I must have sat him on the bottom stair 10 times!! He did sooooo many things he shouldn’t: he sit me, he kicked me, he tapped (I won’t say hit because it was more like a tap) Jenson on the head, scat toys everywhere, threw his toys, threw food, threw a mop at my head (that nearly made me cry because it bloody hurt) and was generally being antagonistic. In between his ‘terrible two moments’ though he was his normal self. It was strange.
The final straw was when after giving him a teddy bears picnic, he started throwing the food, the plates, his picnic guests everywhere so I took him to the bathroom to bath him and put him to bed, as it was too late for a nap. I shut the door in case he tried to escape, and he started throwing things again! Including his shorts, after I had removed them and placed them on the sink unit, which landed in the bath water and my phone,which was resting on top of said shorts, fell onto the tiled floor and cracked!! Grrrrrr – haven’t long had the screen replaced after it got cracked a few months ago! (second time I nearly cried!)
Anyway, he was in bed by ten past five and he didn’t complain or try to get back out. He let me spread him a story, I said goodnight and went out of his room and I didn’t hear a peep out of him!!! (Until 6am morning)
I was relieved that he settled so easily because I was worried he would play up. If I am honest I think part of the problem with him today is that he is over tired because he has not had a nap all week which never happens. He has the beginnings of a cold aswell which might have made him quite himself.
I just don’t know what yesterday was all about if I am honest. However, all I do know is, I am in no hurry to have a repeat performance!!
Thank you xx
crumbsandpegs
Urgh. Poor you. Sounds a little like mine if that’s any reassurance! Had to take my daughter home from a friend’s house as she was being such a miserable minx. I hate it when you get someone feeling sorry for you because of your child’s behaviour! I put it down to overtiredness – it’s been a big week, starting off with her third birthday. Like you, I’m hoping for a better day today. Fingers crossed!
Crystal Jigsaw
May I offer a suggestion? Instead of giving him 3 chances, make it only one. He’s getting away with bad behaviour 3 times before he gets disciplined and then he gets confused because he knows he will get a hug and a kiss anyway, so misbehaving isn’t really that bad in his eyes.
I don’t know your circumstances and I know I have no right to offer my advice, but why don’t you try it? He’s obviously pushing all the right buttons to wind mummy up and his behaviour is getting your attention and a mixed reaction, I.e. Punishment, eventually, followed by making up, which is telling him he can always get away with his naughty behaviour.
CJ xx
Jennypaulin
thanks for your comment. you are not the first to say about the 3 chances bit – I don’t know why i do. it i suppose I always hoped it wouldn’t get to 3 but recently it has!! i will be re-addressing the discipline routine because yesterday proved that it isn’t working anymore. with the threat of being sent to bed he often didn’t get to 3 but since i introduced a naughty step, he has stepped up the naughtiness a gear!! i am happy to take any advice CJ and I am grateful to thhose who have xx
jessies_online
sorry to hear you’re going through this Jenny, it is very upsetting isn’t it. I would say what CJ has said too & not give so many warnings, especially with throwing things. I use the naughty step with Jack and to be honest he’s not on there very often as when I know he’s going to have a tantrum I try & distract him – not as easy when you have another little one to deal with too I’m sure. Jacks problem is more of crying and screaming than throwing things (apart from the odd meatball!) and I tell him that he can’t do/have whatever if he keeps crying…and then I threaten the naughty step. It does sound as though Burton is tired though, I know when Jack’s in need of sleep when he starts to play up. Has he not napped because he wouldn’t go down for one or because you’ve been out and about?
Hope next week is a better week for you
x
Jennypaulin
Thanks for you comment Helen 🙂
I know I have worse to come, I think it just took me a back a bit and you are right it is hard to react to everything immediately with a baby in tow. Oh well I live to face another day!! He didn’t nap because we were out a couple of the days and I didn’t perserveve enough the other days I guess. xx