Following Valentine’s Day, this weeks Gallery theme set by Tara at Sticky Fingers, is TOGETHERNESS. I feel my post is a bit anti loved up, but I don’t have any recent together photos to use of the three of us,and this is my blog and my interpretation of the theme!
This is one of the last photos I have of my parents together before they went their separate ways in 1996.
My parents got together very young they had only known each other a month before they found out they were expecting me: they were just 17 (Mum) and 19 (Dad). They married a few months later and after having me, my brother came along 2 1/2 years later. Although they stayed together until 1996, there were affairs and separations before then, and although we had some good times together as a family, I look back now on my childhood and mostly remember the arguments and fall outs. Don’t get me wrong, I am not making out I was hard done by, but sometimes I think people stay together for the wrong reasons. They stayed together, I believe, for the sake of my brother and I.
Due to the memories I have of my parents ‘togetherness’ it has made me determined that I don’t want my children to have memories like that. Yes of course there will be disagreements and arguments in their lives, but I hope if they are between Jon and I, we will try not do do it from of them.
Although he and I had been together for 3 years before I found out I was pregnant with Burton, the pregnancy and the months after were trying on our relationship. (It wasn’t that we hadn’t planned to have a baby it just raised some relationship issues – but that’s another story!) There was a great deal of shouting, upset and disagreements, and I was actually wondering for a while if things wouldn’t be better for Burton, and us, if we split up.
I am glad to say that since finding out I am pregnant for a second time, we have been better together and asides from the occasional raised voice in front of Burton, we have managed to work together well as parents and we get on again and are happier together.
Therefore, Jon and I share a togetherness – a bond if you like – being parents to Burton
And will to our new baby in April too.
I also hope that we are together for us as well. I don’t want to make the same mistakes my parents did.
Thank you xx
Thanks Jen. I know that all relationships, even the very strong ones, are put to the test once a baby comes along. Glad it has all worked out ok for you and yours xx
Jenny, I am very happy that it has worked out for you too. Sometimes it is very hard, but staying strong is what we have to do. Good luck in April ;))) @Kahanka
WOW! Good luck with everything and enjoy your togetherness x
Lovely post and photo’s. I know how hard it is to keep a relationship together…It takes a lot of work and dedication. I so relate to this post. Happy Continued Togetherness x
No it’s never easy, but life is a lot more peaceful now xx
A beautiful photo of your parents and hopefully remembered with fondness by you. It goes to show they did love each other. My own mum and dad should possibly have divorced several times but I believe they have stayed together for me initially and since then because they have a type of amiable companionship. I am also all to aware of these issues and am determined not to repeat them. Beautiful photo of the three of you.